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Hi, I’m Elaina and I want to help you live life on your terms, find a career you love, and travel as often as you want. These are the best years of your life and you deserve to be FREE! 

 

I’ve lived, worked, and traveled to more than 60 countries, including some pretty off-the-beaten path destinations like Mongolia, Ethiopia, Nigeria, and Paraguay. I lived out of a suitcase as a full-time nomad for 5.5 years, ever since leaving my management consulting gig in New York in 2013. You can read my full story here. I’m now living my dream, settled in Bali, Indonesia, fully independent and working happily on projects that support my deepest passion! 

 

What makes my story unique is that I’ve traveled AND built a professional career, working for companies like IBM and Uber over the years. I’ve also spent long stretches of time freelancing and traveling adventurously through South America, Asia, and Africa. I now make my living helping others break out of ordinary living and get clear on their mission in life. I get paid to help people MANIFEST THEIR DREAMS like I did — how cool is that?  

 

I write about self-development, digital nomadism, charting unconventional life paths, finding jobs overseas, pursuing long-term travel, and living purposefully in a fast-paced, confusing world. There’s simply no one-size-fits-all model for creating a life you love. I’ve always done things a bit differently and I think there are SO many feasible ways for people to live “off the beaten path”. I hope my blog lets you see what’s both possible and practical.  

 

I started this blog because I want to help you find an exciting career, travel the world, break the norms, and develop yourself both personally and professionally. Drop me a line at elaina@lifebefore30.com or apply to work with me directly! 

Should You Accept That Job Offer?

Posted on February 21st, 2015

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One of my best friends was in a serious bind this past week: she had interviewed with company A for a “not dream position/dream location” job but not heard back yet, and then received an offer from company B for a “dream position/not dream location” job. In the meantime, she had already been with her current company for 3 years, and although it was a top Fortune 500, she was hating every minute and ready to take the next step.

 

Of course she could continue waiting for other offers, but the time and energy of job-hunting for the past 3 months was taking its toll and her combined frustration and fatigue was also influencing her decision. (While obviously those factors shouldn’t play a role in deciding whether or not to accept a new job offer, the reality is they often do.)

 

What do you think she did? In the same situation, what would you have done?

 

This is a pretty common scenario and many of you will probably find yourself in similar situations when navigating transitions between jobs, so I’ll share some truncated insights (since there are dozens of aspects for evaluating a potential job offer) from our conversations over the past few days here.

 

Basically, this was my advice to her:

 

  1. First things first, don’t ask too many people for their opinions. In this situation, no one can tell you what to do. To be more helpful, outside opinions should be limited to only suggestions of decision-making frameworks that will help YOU come up with your final decision. That is, if you’re going to ask people’s opinions, don’t ask them what they would do, ask them how they would go about deciding.
  2. Whether or not the other offer comes in from Company A, is location or role more of a priority? Try to identify the one priority you’re looking to achieve in this next step and make sure your final decision addresses that above all else.
  3. Proactively reach out to Company A and put some pressure on them, sharing the news of your other offer but still expressing interest in joining their company and receiving feedback on your interview process. (In the end, the offer came through, but it was for a different city altogether, resulting in a “not dream position/not dream location” job and was quickly eliminated. The decision then became: take a “dream position/not dream location” job or stay in prestigious and well-paid but miserable current job?)
  4. Is it a f*ck yes? Like Mark Mason says about relationships, I say about jobs. If I take the job, it better be a “f*ck yes, I am so excited about this new opportunity I want to shout it from mountaintops” kind of reaction. If it’s not, better to wait it out, especially if you’re already employed.
  5. Easier said than done: try to take emotions out of the picture. It was clear that the exasperation of the current job and a taxing job hunt were heavily influencing the decision-making process – all of which could lead to a rash decision and winding up back in another unhappy job scenario in just a few months. Which leads us to…
  6. what would your 35-year old self say? In 10 years, emotions won’t be a factor. You probably won’t even remember them. So imagine yourself 10 years down the road, living out your dream vision of success. Will you look back and say that this opportunity got you closer to that success or was it a side-step when considering the long-term perspective?
  7. Think it terms of pure growth. Where will you learn more? Where will you be surrounded by more mentors? Better mentors?
  8. Lastly, I reminded her that at the end of the day, it’s just a job and just one contributor to your life as a whole. It’s always what you make of it. If you wind up staying, you can find a way to make it better; if you take a new offer, you will find a way to make the most of that next step, too. Like anything in life, your attitude is everything.

In the end, she went with the “dream position/not dream location” job from Company B, deciding that her portfolio and functional role will be more developed at a small, specialized company after 3 years in a corporate mammoth gaining broad (yet foundational) management consulting skills. While she did want to be in her dream location, she rationalized that a better portfolio and refined skill set were the priority of the moment – not to mention escaping a miserable current job scenario – and well worth the relatively small compromise on geography.

 

And I couldn’t be happier for her!

 

 

What would you have told your friend in the same situation? What might you have done differently or thought about differently? Share your ideas in the comments section below, and don’t forget to share this post on Facebook and Twitter!

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Hi, I’m Elaina and I want to help you live life on your terms, find a career you love, and travel as often as you want. These are the best years of your life and you deserve to be FREE! 

 

I’ve lived, worked, and traveled to more than 60 countries, including some pretty off-the-beaten path destinations like Mongolia, Ethiopia, Nigeria, and Paraguay. I lived out of a suitcase as a full-time nomad for 5.5 years, ever since leaving my management consulting gig in New York in 2013. You can read my full story here. I’m now living my dream, settled in Bali, Indonesia, fully independent and working happily on projects that support my deepest passion! 

 

What makes my story unique is that I’ve traveled AND built a professional career, working for companies like IBM and Uber over the years. I’ve also spent long stretches of time freelancing and traveling adventurously through South America, Asia, and Africa. I now make my living helping others break out of ordinary living and get clear on their mission in life. I get paid to help people MANIFEST THEIR DREAMS like I did — how cool is that?  

 

I write about self-development, digital nomadism, charting unconventional life paths, finding jobs overseas, pursuing long-term travel, and living purposefully in a fast-paced, confusing world. There’s simply no one-size-fits-all model for creating a life you love. I’ve always done things a bit differently and I think there are SO many feasible ways for people to live “off the beaten path”. I hope my blog lets you see what’s both possible and practical.  

 

I started this blog because I want to help you find an exciting career, travel the world, break the norms, and develop yourself both personally and professionally. Drop me a line at elaina@lifebefore30.com or apply to work with me directly! 

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